Parenting support is the least invasive approach to helping your child- which is why I often recommend it as a first step when family life has gone off course. Parents are a child's best teachers. Your child will learn new coping skills through your 24/7 guidance much more quickly and efficiently than through a few hours of therapy each month.
If you are feeling overwhelmed by the tasks of parenting, you are certainly not alone. Coping with the "normal" lack of sleep, tantrums, and discipline challenges is enough. But add on top of that extraordinary circumstances or needs, and you really need someone in your corner. They say it takes a tribe to raise a child, and I'd love to be part of your's! I have particular expertise with families who are adjusting to their child's:
Defiance and behavioral issues
Autism or sensory issues
Trauma, attachment, or adoption-related issues
I don't believe that any one person holds the "magic answer," but I have the benefit of having helped many struggling children, as well as the collective knowledge of many amazing, creative parents. I see our relationship as an adventurous collaboration in which we are exploring, experimenting with, and feeling out new ways of parenting.
I will expose you to a variety of practical, hands-on, step-by-step parenting skills that are feasible in real-life situations. Verbal processing, video learning and role-playing everyday scenarios will help you learn and apply new skills with confidence. One of the most important things is that we find an approach for your family that is both effective for your unique child and which fits with your values. There is no one "right" way.
My Beliefs On Parenting
I believe that most children do better with strategies that are based on strengthening a meaningful connection with their parent and learning new skills, as opposed to material rewards or punishment. For this reason, I focus less on the behavioral approaches such as time-outs, sticker charts, and 123 magic, and more on understanding the feelings and needs driving a child's behavior.
All behavior has a message, and we'll work together to "decode" what your child is trying to communicate. This helps you respond in a way that connects you to the heart of your child. When children feel "heard" in this deeper way, their behavior tends to improve rather quickly and drastically.
I also believe that our experiences of being parented will greatly inform how we raise our children. All parents make mistakes. Sometimes we repeat our parents' mistakes despite our best efforts, and sometimes we go to an opposite extreme to avoid our parents' mistakes, creating new challenges in the process. I will walk alongside you with gentleness, humility, and compassion as we revisit early childhood experiences which may be getting in the way of your current-day parenting. This process can be deeply rewarding and fruitful, both in terms of parenting and on an individual level.